Posted by: jacksterja | 22 November, 2006

What I’ve learned

I’ve spent 30 years and then some (hard to believe, I know, given my rosebud skin and girlish figure!) in this world. It’d be downright surprising if I hadn’t managed to learn a few things in that time.

I thought it might be interesting to try to write down some of that hard-won wisdom. If nothing else, it’ll give me something to laugh about a year from now if it all ends up trite and sanctimonious. Anyhow, here goes…

  • Being apart from people you love sucks. But it’s better than never going anywhere and never making new friends. Plus, reunions are great.
  • Family doesn’t just have to be made up of people you’re related to. You can build yourself a family anywhere if you’re open to it.
  • Making friends isn’t really hard. Every friend you have was once a stranger. Bite the bullet and talk to a stranger every now and again. Every conversation you have and every shared experience with someone is another step towards being friends.
  • Sometimes it’s OK to stop being friends. Or even just be as close. Things change, we all go our4 own way. It’s sad, but you’ll always have the good times to focus on.
  • Family is really important. You don’t always have to get along, but you do owe it to each other to try to get past any disagreements.
  • Sometimes you have to leap without looking. I’d rather regret doing something than regret not having tried it.
  • Relationships are not like in the movies. There are no happily ever afters. Sometimes you have to fight and sometimes you have to give in and sometimes you have to walk away, but if you expect things to run smoothly you’re going spend your life disappointed.
  • Sometimes you just have to make a decision and stick with it. There’s not always a right and a wrong course of action, but indecision will give you the worst possible outcome; guaranteed.
  • Life is all about balance. Try to do as much stuff that’s good for you as is bad for you. Eat well most of the time, exercise regularly but not obsessively, and all things in moderation. Don’t get too caught up in letting your job define your life.
  • Job interviews should go both ways.
  • Who you work with is as important as the work you do when it comes to how happy you are with your job.
  • You should always have something cool planned at some point in the future – a holiday, an event, even dinner with an old friend or family member. If things get rough, it’s something to hang onto and look forward to.
  • Things will get rough. Life is a roller coaster (I made that up myself, you like?). It always gets better. Plus often it is these times that make us realise how much our loved ones care for us.
  • You shouldn’t try to follow fashion. It was invented to sell stuff. Instead, develop your own style and incorporate anything that fits. Otherwise you will be perpetually behind, and probably look ridiculous. I have a theory that the more fashionable you are right now, the more ridiculous you’ll seem when you look back. Take a look at 80s music videos and tell me I’m wrong.
  • Who made up the rule that crying is seen as a sign of weakness? Bugger that. So long as it’s not deliberately used to manipulate a situation, a good cry is the natural response for dealing with highly emotional situations.
  • Beautiful but uncomfortable shoes are never worth it. I know, you’ll wear them anyway and find this out on your own. Over and over again. It’s still true.
  • A bargain is only a bargain if you’ve done your homework and get it right.
  • The most memorable and fun occasions will be ones you don’t plan and don’t expect.
  • chain emails are usually hoaxes. Most people don’t even do a cursory check before passing them along.
  • If something looks too good to be true, it generally is. There’s always a catch. Don’t kid yourself.
  • No matter how sure you are of things, you will be completely surprised on a regular basis. Don’t be too small to revise your world-view in light of new evidence.

OK, that’s enough sanctimoniousness for one day. Anyone else have contributions?


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